cross-country skiing with children ~ bayrischzell

of course, the war in ukraine is sad and if NATO gets involved, we will probably face WW3 ... well, i can't watch too long all that ukrainian and (also few) russian videos on youtube and not get crazy. soo sad ... many russian channels are censored in germany and here in croatia, as the NATO members do not allow their inhabitants to get any information from the 'other side' (russian informations) ... 

in order to focus my attention also to some other topics, i've just uploaded pictures from my first ever cross-country skiing (schilanglauf) with my daughter in bayrischzell. it was not the first time i could learn s.th. from my children, you know? my first ever snowshoes hike or preparing of sushi or a visit to malaysia & singapore were also a new experiences for me.

enjoy few pictures:

a frozen creek

#learningfromchildren

more pictures here.

marshall b. rosenberg ~ nonviolent communication (NVC)

marshall bertram rosenberg (1934 - 2015), u.s. psychologist, best known for his concepts & teachings about nonviolent communication (NVC).

 

marshall b. rosenberg at a workshop in israel 1990 speaking with the wolf's & giraffe's voices. 

(source: free 2 use wiki commons, author etan j. tal).

my friends, alfred adler's psychological approach was not the only audio book, my wife ["the best of all wives" (at least for me) 😃] and i have heard on our journeys, of course. anyway, it remembers me there was another really great "stuff for our minds", the communication concepts by marshall b. rosenberg, we have had on our agenda through eastern germany in june 2020. hearing adler, we tried to move our relationship to a horizontal relation (, where it already was, if you asked me). 

a) here are the 6 fundamental assumptions of rosenberg's non-violent communication (GewaltFreie Kommunikation GFK), right now available just in german ... of course, you or the AI can easily find it in english, too):

=> what does it imply aka what is the beneficial approach in communication aka THE SOLUTION? 

b) hearing rosenberg, we tried to communicate in the way, that we started to:

1. understand the other party's needs behind the words / arguments told
   
2. observe what kind of feelings were created in us hearing other party's arguments
   
3. tell the other party what happens in us when we feel what it wants
   
4. tell the other party (= the most emphatic woman in the universe i know 😍) as a pray which behaviour / reaction / solution i'd wish she would do. (just in case you do not know the difference between a pray and a demand: a pray accepts 'NO'. you see?)
   

only 4 steps? seems easy? yes, but it is not ... it is worth to try it and yes, you can also get (professional) help on the issue in vast number of trainings folks provide following rosenberg's method probably also in your area / location ... => will you?

as 2020 is already few seconds away and i cannot remember all the details, so i just looked up some information at wikipedia. of course, i do not have any qualms of conscience to copy a part of wiki's knowledge here as i support wikipedia financially almost every year. btw, my youngest daughter also does 😍. that could mean, children learn by example and not by the words we teach them day after day. what do you think?

wikipedia.EN => .... (marshall b. rosenberg) He worked for four years in Norfolk, Virginia's school integration. As a caricature of his program in street talk he offered this version, spoken to himself

Thug, identify observable behaviour. Identify feeling. Identify reason for feeling. Identify wants. Put that out. Make sure other person connects with it. And thug, you'll know a miracle start to happen after a bit. ... <= wikipedia.EN

let's stop violence and let's turn our world into a place of love & freedom & support & understanding. will we? 😍

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addendum 2026-04-19: i've asked google's AI about NVC today:

Nonviolent Communication (NVC), auch bekannt als „einfühlsame Kommunikation“ oder „Sprache des Herzens“, ist ein Kommunikationsmodell, das von dem US-amerikanischen Psychologen Marshall B. Rosenberg (1934–2015) entwickelt wurde. 

Das Ziel der GFK ist es, menschliche Beziehungen so zu gestalten, dass alle Beteiligten empathisch miteinander umgehen und Konflikte friedlich lösen, indem sie sich auf ihre zugrunde liegenden Bedürfnisse konzentrieren, anstatt sich gegenseitig zu verurteilen. 

Die 4 Schritte der GFK

Das Modell basiert auf einem klaren vierstufigen Prozess, der sowohl für den Ausdruck der eigenen Anliegen als auch für das empathische Zuhören genutzt wird: 

1. Beobachtung (Observation): Man beschreibt eine konkrete Handlung oder Situation sachlich, ohne sie zu bewerten oder zu interpretieren (wie eine Kameraaufnahme).
2. Gefühl (Feeling): Man drückt aus, welche Emotionen (z. B. frustriert, traurig, erfreut) durch die Beobachtung ausgelöst werden, ohne anderen die Schuld daran zu geben.
3. Bedürfnis (Need): Man formuliert das universelle menschliche Bedürfnis, das hinter dem Gefühl steht (z. B. Sicherheit, Verständnis, Ordnung), da Gefühle laut Rosenberg Wegweiser zu erfüllten oder unerfüllten Bedürfnissen sind.
4. Bitte (Request): Man formuliert eine positive, konkrete und erfüllbare Bitte um eine Handlung im Hier und Jetzt, die klar von einer Forderung unterschieden wird (eine Bitte lässt dem Gegenüber die Freiheit, "Nein" zu sagen). 

Kerngedanken von Marshall B. Rosenberg

• Empathie statt Urteil: Rosenberg vertrat die Ansicht, dass Gewalt und Konflikte oft durch eine „lebensentfremdende Kommunikation“ entstehen, die von moralischen Urteilen, Vergleichen und Schuldzuweisungen geprägt ist.
• Schakal- vs. Giraffensprache: In seinen Seminaren nutzte Rosenberg oft zwei Handpuppen als Symbole: Der Schakal steht für eine bewertende, fordernde Kommunikation, während die Giraffe (das Landsäugetier mit dem größten Herzen) für eine weitsichtige und mitfühlende Kommunikation steht.
• Selbst-Empathie: Ein wesentlicher Teil der Praxis ist es, sich auch der eigenen Gefühle und Bedürfnisse bewusst zu werden, um klarer und gelassener reagieren zu können. 

Hintergrund und Anwendung

Rosenberg entwickelte die GFK in den 1960er Jahren während der US-Bürgerrechtsbewegung, um bei der Desintegration von Schulen und Organisationen zu helfen. Heute wird die Methode weltweit in der Psychotherapie, in Unternehmen (wie Microsoft), Schulen, Gefängnissen und sogar in internationalen Krisengebieten zur Mediation eingesetzt. 

Sein bekanntestes Werk ist das Buch Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. 

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garmisch ~ skiing with children

what a beautiful day with my adult children in the mountains today 😄☃🌞

 -> skiing with children in the garmisch classic ski area in garmisch-partenkirchen, bavaria.

our highest point today was the resraurant at the osterfelderkopf in 2,033 m

above sea level, just below the alpspitze (2628 m).

BMW race track with posssibility to win a BW x1 car

more pictures here.

garmisch is quite close to munich, so we are quite often here. we have made completely different opinion two years ago

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learning from children how 2 make sushi + how 2 SAVE the WORLD

what a day with family & friends! cozy breakfast, bowling, learning 2 make sushi, playing darts, all day with family + our children friends ... it has rained all day but nobody cared, nice! btw, i've also uploaded few pics :-)

you know what? the really strange part of that 4 me? well, the best ideas came from our children ... hmmmmm, we really can learn a lot from our children:

OMG+OMG+OMG! even 13 year old children are much smarter + much more awoke than all the adults running the world ... shame on us adults for not making the world better :-( ... it wouldn't be difficult or costly or whatever else we fear that much ;-(

of course, i've already collected and linked together more of this kind of stuff ~ enjoy😄

#learningfromchildren

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